– also known as reciprocal IVF – is a treatment that allows female same-sex couples to both take an active role in the experience of conceiving and carrying a child. Many women arrive at our clinic uncertain about how the process works, so here we answer some of your Shared Motherhood FAQs to help you gain a deeper understanding of the procedure. Shared motherhood
Who can benefit from shared motherhood?
Shared motherhood is predominantly a treatment for female same-sex couples who want to have a child that feels as close as possible to being the biological offspring of both mothers.
How can a child have two biological mothers?
The idea of shared motherhood is that the eggs are harvested from one partner, with the fertilised embryos implanted in the other, so that in effect one mother conceives the child, while the other carries it to term and gives birth to it.
How does the process differ from standard IVF?
Just like in IVF for heterosexual couples, both partners are fully involved in the process. The difference with shared motherhood is that the sperm will always come from a donor, and the egg will be harvested from the non-carrying partner
What steps does the shared motherhood procedure follow?
Once you and your partner have had a thorough consultation at your chosen clinic, and have undergone the various tests and scans necessary, the consultant will advise on which partner is best suited for which role – for example if one partner has a higher ovarian reserve, they may be recommended as the “egg donor”, while the other partner would be the carrier.
Once a sperm donor has been selected (this can be from a sperm bank, or can be someone you know), the partner who is donating the eggs will begin medication to stimulate egg production, and will undergo regular check-ups and hormone injections to ensure everything goes to plan.
When the doctor is happy that the time is approaching to harvest the eggs, the carrying partner will begin a course of medication to help prepare the womb for pregnancy.
The eggs will be harvested once they have reached the appropriate point of maturity, and will then be fertilised with the chosen donor’s sperm and left to grow into embryos, before being implanted into the carrying partner’s womb.
What is the success rate of shared motherhood?
As with all fertility treatment, success rates can be dependent on the age of the eggs and of the women involved. However, as the sperm used always comes from a donor, this eliminates many of the sperm quality issues associated with standard IVF, meaning success rates can be higher. Some clinics report a success rate as high as 85% in women under the age of 35
Are there any legal implications of shared motherhood?
If you are not married or in a civil partnership, it is important to be aware that only the carrying partner will be considered a legal parent once the child is born. However, the clinic can guide you through the process of filling out paperwork before your treatment takes place, to ensure you are both considered legal parents, and remove any additional stress in those first few weeks of motherhood.
If you have any questions about shared motherhood that aren’t answered here, or would like to book a consultation with one of our fertility specialists, please contact us.